Step 3 Stay in an attitude of allowing. Resistance is disharmony between your desire for abundance and your beliefs about your ability or …Daily Dose for the Soul
The state of our mind, our mental space, determines how we perceive the physical state around us. If you are happy even average food tastes sumptuous…Daily Dose for the Soul
Today’s Post will be focused on how we can heal our inner self with forgiveness and things that we can do to grow forward regardless of the pain you might have had for this situation or person.
You know how the word forgiveness is always thrown around like some piece of cake !! Very easy to say but one of the hardest thing to do? Oh, it is hard. I know it, and you also do know it is hard. Well, for some, it is easy to forgive, and for some, it is easy to say they have forgiven but always bring it up in every situation, which I can say I fall into that category, to be honest with you all. 😂
Forgiveness isn’t about agreeing with what they did. It’s also not allowing what they did to you to steal your peace of mind, your hope, happiness. It is about your healing.M.C
First of all, I will start by writing about what forgiveness is not about because there is a lot of misconceptions about it;
- Forgiveness is not being in denial about what the other person did to you. By them not taking responsibility for hurting you and how that wounded feeling has impacted your life, let’s take, for example, if you were abused or cheated on, you could not simply forget it never happened or deny that you cannot remember because those occurrences have affected you and therefore will have an impact on your upcoming relationship with someone else.
- Forgiveness certainly does not mean Reconciliation. I can attest to this; My aunt hurt me so bad, and I had to forgive her so that I could grow and for my peace of mind, but I stopped calling, asking about her and just parted ways with her because we could not go back to how we were before. It was a very toxic relationship. You can forgive someone but choose never to have anything to do with that person again, maybe because of whatever you felt objected to in that relationship.
Secondly, let’s talk about what forgiveness is all about
Forgiveness is interpreted in a lot of ways, but the simplest to say is that no matter what has happened in any of our lives at this moment, we can be at peace, be it five minutes ago or five years ago. Forgiveness is an assertive or creation of peace in the present. People create a lack of stability, so we can also be the only people who can remedy the situation.Fred Luksin
This step is an intentional and voluntary process by which you may have been offended, maltreated, injured or victimised, but choose to let go of the malice, hostility and bitterness raging up in you.
- This step is an intentional decision you have to make by yourself, and let me tell you; it is not all ❤️. You will not like it or feel all contented afterwards. Being intentional is an option you decide to click on because you want to move past the experience of hurt and bitterness. The pain is holding you back on a lot of happiness, peace of mind, developing your potentials and freedom. When you realise that you keep going back to what that person had done to you and how it hurts, you would know that you are stuck in a place of unforgiveness, which inhibits your progress because you are still tied to that pain occurrence. Being Intentional about this is a process, and it means you have to walk it out
- The other step is being voluntary about forgiveness which means only you can do it, not someone else but yourself. An example will be when you are in a quarrel with your partner, and this person does not want to own that he/she is wrong and blames you for what you did not do, but then you still choose to forgive that individual.
The truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realise that the problem is over, you cannot move forward.Steve Maraboli
The process is not an overnight process. It takes time. For me, I have to call out that person name, and I have to keep repeating it from my hearts of hearts in meditation to say I have forgiven that person. I also have to talk about it to know I am in the process of forgiving that person because I choose to do it with willingness and time.
Finally, this is all about consideration and empathy. You can check my post on https://princessanyasodor.com/2020/09/06/do-you-think-our-modern-society-lacks-empathy/. Forgiveness is also about having the power to live your life with a sense of hope, joy, resilience, understanding and compassion because you are working on yourself. I am still learning, trying and meditating because this life no easy oooo. When people show you (shege),😔 you want to revenge, but then you think about it and understand that that person does not know any better. P.S (shege means problems or when people show you their true hurtful sides)
I will stop here and would love to hear some of your opinions on how you forgive people or do you even forgive? Please comment below and we can chat.
Thank you for the love ❤️ we see back here tomorrow for Daily Post Day 6.
Welcome back to Daily Post: Day 4. What is it you feel when you feel that you are not enough for anything, Job, Partner, Parents, Work, Friends, Children and even Yourself!!
What triggers your Emotions? As people, we go through emotional problems, and these can ruin a lot of things if we do not control them. Regardless of what and who you are, if you do not have them in Check, it can destroy some valuable things you have going on for yourself.
Emotion is a normal response reacting to your environment, which is quite familiar. These are the things we experience and are considered normal.
Emotions is a conscious mental reaction (such as anger or fear) subjectively experienced as strong feeling usually directed toward a specific object and typically accompanied by physiological and behavioural changes in the bodyhttps://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/emotion
Emotions are not permanent and do not last. There are some times in your life when you are down and some times when you feel high, and these things dictate our behaviours.
So how do we create a personal plan before a crisis happen? How do we move with our emotions so as not to interfere with our daily lives? And environment because the more we allow our circumstances or emotion to direct us, the more we see people leave us because it takes so long for them not to see our points of view.
So many of us allow our moods to dictate our lives, and these types of things are detrimental to our healthy being and mental being as well. These are temporary, or else we make them a daily life chatter to become permanent in our life. Some people have gone through lots of traumas and do not have guidance to overcome these traumas.
Do you feel you have ruined a lot of things in your life due to your emotions?
Do you know yourself?
Many of us do not know who we are. It does not matter what you are or who you are. Our emotions can dictate our lives if we let them have the upper hand.
You do need to start paying attention to how you feel when you have these feelings.
You need to know exactly why are you angry? It would help if you allowed yourself to feel whatever you are feeling and not try to shy away. Whatever you are feeling is not an excuse to be insensitive, rude and bossy towards others or yourself. If you need to release it when you feel annoyed (for example) because you did not catch the bus, you need to sit with that thought for a while and then get yourself together.
One day at work, I attended to customers and snapped at them at the slightest questions they asked. Note; I was not taking notice of this. I was angry and irrational that day, so a lady on the line, when it got to her turn(my friend at work), asked me if I was on my period. ( ladies 😊 you all know how it is, right?) I said yes, and she told me to take a deep breath and relax, maybe take a break, drink something, and I would be fine. She then told me how I was behaving. These got me thinking, and I decided to pen the thoughts down. I let my emotions rule me even though I knew I was annoyed but practically nothing. I was deliberating, taking it out on those innocent people. I won’t say it never happened again, but I try as much as possible not to let my anger unto people who have no cents in it.
Do not allow time to pass you by when you are feeling down but instead recognise that you do not have a lot of time to waste on resentment, unforgiveness and hate but rather stand by the scriptures, meditate and maintain the light.
The way we change the quality of our life is a change in our thoughtP.A.A
Be anchored unto the word of God or Meditations, peace of God, promises of God and his purpose in your life.
We can make a shift when we are more placed in our Spiritual space.
Some questions were asked in this post. It would be lively to know your thoughts on them. We could have a discussion on them.
I would be glad to see your comment in the box below on how you have tried to overcome the feelings you have had or are still having.
Thank you. We see tomorrow for Day 5.
Do you always have that gut feeling? When you know something is off, and you don’t have peace about a situation and a person? Do you sometimes have that little voice that comes so fast and slips away like it was never there?
Today we will be talking about the practical side of discernment and how you can listen to your gut as it can prevent or forewarn you on what’s about to come.
Firstly, what is Discernment?
It is defined as the ability to decide between truth and error, right and wrong. Discernment is also the ability to make careful distinctions in our thinking about the fact. In other words, it is the ability to think biblically.John MacArthur
For a while now, I have been reading about what it means, and to be honest, it is mainly linked 🔗 to various biblical quotes and readings of the Bible. It is a gift that comes from God, and that each of us has this gift as an insight to penetrate past a person veneer and the surface of a situation and also past the words that a person is using to judge people and situations accurately and when I say judge I do not mean passing judgment on as I wrote on my other post https://princessanyasodor.com/2020/02/03/judging-others🎤🎤/ I mean judging as in assessing and evaluating.
When you are tapping into your gift of discernment, you can access and evaluate people in their motives and the situations that you find yourself in. This post discusses how to know when to listen to your inner guts and tap into the flow and let God show you what you need to do in any given situation.
Now you are thinking about what this is. These are those precise and concise words that flash through your mind or linger behind your mind like. For example, there is a nice person you know, but whenever you are around that person, you always do not connect with that person, or your friend tells you to come with them to a party and you have this little voice telling you not to go, or a mother who tells her son not to go out with some friends for a reason she actually cannot place her finger on, and so on. Some examples of these words are;
- Don’t go
- Get out now
- Get more information
- Step back
- Don’t talk or hold your thought
- Walk away
- Don’t argue
- Pick up the phone and call
- Say I am sorry
These feelings, or skill, as I would put it, is up to us to nurture that seed of discernment that we have inside of us. So that when it’s time to discern people in their motives and situations it can be utilised. It can be nurtured in various ways, like through meditation or prayer. The more time you spend alone meditating or praying, the better tuned your spirit is to reading people better and seeing through their charades. These thoughts sometimes make you not sleep at night because it weighs heavily on your mind. When you have these thoughts, you desire one thing, but in retrospect, it is not suitable for you.
Do you know that saying? That Every disappointment a blessing? Oh yes! Sometimes it is true! I am sure you must have also irked when you are around someone or even before getting into a relationship, but because that person was packaged just the way you like and want, you just decided to throw that intuition to the wind and then later it grows and bites your ass.
An important message is: when you are dealing with someone, you are also dealing with their frequency.Princess 👑
Ways to know and surrender to your inner self in discerning situations.
- Surrending; paying attention to your inner self by meditating
- Calmness; that peace of mind you have about something and sure enough to walk away from it because it’s not good for you even though you want it.
- Empowerment; empowers us to act in accordance with our own lives and be able to act on our behalf
I have a friend who has the spirit of discernment, and it is an obvious one. Funny enough, when she tells her husband not to do something or to do something, he dismisses her. Then later that same thing, she warned him about rebounds, and he calls her a Wi###. ( you know 🧐)
Discernment is focusing on others and not on self because it allows you to assess if whatever situation you are in is good for you or not.
I will have to stop here for now and continue more on this topic next time. Please do leave a comment on how you see through the social mask people wear? And how do you deal with it? I will be happy to hear from you. Thank you
We will see here tomorrow on day four of daily post.
If you are struggling with self-discovery like I am, then I guess this post is for you. This strengthening of a personal relationship with oneself is coming from someone who is in the mix, or I would say, in the process of discovering herself.
I am not your everyday Positiveness guru who wakes up and sets her mind on something, manifests and be an all-around happy person. No, I am not that person. I thought I was, but Nah Nah Nah sometimes situations humbles you, and you have to learn yourself and know what your path and purpose is.
I am a firm believer that hard work and positiveness go hand in hand. The reason some people find this hard is that they do not genuinely want to put in some work. Sometimes life hit you hard, and one day you wake the F### up and see it for what it is. That is fine. I am still waking up, and it is through these challenges, tough love and the knowledge that I am accountable to every choice and decisions I make to my self that pushes me through.
I am in control of my body, hands, mind and decisions. So long as you are above 18+, you are supposed to take an active initiative to maintain and honouring your life force energy and not allowing outside forces to dictate how you are going to live the life you want. Well, that is up to you to decide if you wish it so or not.
Some of these forces could be to point fingers at people who caused you trauma and pain, or to point fingers at situations that have not been of good to you also hinders your journey to self-discovery.
This example here was my case, but I learned early enough that regardless of whatever the situation was or is, I can blame myself or make myself accountable and find how I can make that situation better 🌟.
Secondly, also to do things that will make you proud of yourself so that your future self can look back and be like, wow, ❕ you did that and then you will see your reality shifting for you. You have to understand who and what is it you want to be and then embodying that being that you want to be
This is the day two post of my daily reflections. I hope you are all doing well. Please do leave a comment below stating your journey of self discovery. What can be done for oneself to be aligned with him/her/itself? I would be glad to read your comments.
Have a wonderful Sunday. Thank you.
I am standing by the bus station waiting for my bus to come and another bus which was not supposed to stop at that particular bus station stops in front of me and says „I normally do not stop here but where are you headed“? and I told him the train station he said „I am not headed there but I can take you to your destination“ and then I laughed and was cheered and happy that even though that wonderful man did not know me and whatever it is I am going through. He stopped to cheer someone up.
I thanked him and he moved on but that brought me to thinking 🤔. How did he know I needed a laugh or a push or ???.
As I stand here waiting for my bus, my thoughts start rolling. What are people going through? How can you know when people are going through hard times? And not even only that, how can you help? While all these thoughts are going through my mind, I watch people laugh and hold hands; I see a child riding his scooter with a stern face. I see an older man trying to walk down the streets, two young girls chatting and giggling, and the one ☝️question still going through my mind is, How can they know what I am going through?
You know nobody looks like what they are going through or dress like what they are going through. Two of my dear friends called me today saying, „Princess, dress up, put on makeup and go out, “ but I do not feel like doing what they suggested. What I feel right now standing by the bus station is to scream my heart out, wear my problems like a cloth so that everyone or anyone can press a stop 🛑 or like ❤️ button on me so as to push these problems away.
But you see that is not the case. And in reality even if it was.., would you be helped by random people? Would people care? Would they ask how well you are doing? Or all they actually want to hear in return is I am fine? Without asking real deep?
Well, my bus came and I drove with the bus to the train Station and there I see and hear a man singing and playing his instruments which also brought smiles to my face. I had to tip him ❤️. Now I am standing, still standing waiting for my train and all I am thinking is Problems NEVER ENDS!
But little snippets of love, care, cheering, word of encouragement, checking up and prayers go a long way.
Here is my daily Post for today. In the next ten days, I will be posting daily and hope I make it through. Could you cross your fingers for me? I hope you are doing well, and you can also share your daily rants and feelings here too, and I will be here to rant with you ❤️.
See you tomorrow here.
Sometimes truth can be painful. Manchmal schmerzt die Wahrheit.The Truth In Lying || Die Wahrheit Im Lügen
I know this may not seem like my usual post but its fun anyways because i did it myelf, tried it and it works. Besides, i have written this post for a while now. I said to myself hey just post it. So welcome to my DIY Blog.
If you are looking for a way to reduce spending a lush amount of money on Body care products. Then you are definitely welcomed to my post.
A year ago I traveled home to Nigeria. There, I realised that all my expensive body care products couldn’t withstand the Sun in Nigeria… Ohhhhh it was blazing hawttt I mean HOT. If I was a bar of meltable chocolate I wouldn’t have made it back to Germany. Ohh yes (Even though) I was born and raised there. I never thought I would feel the way I felt about the heat. The heat was something else. 🔥🔥🔥
A year ago I started following the ‘do it yourself’ ( DIY) trend and ever since it has been a lively and emancipating Journey.
For a year now, I have stopped buying my usual Body Care Products in Shops and Drogerie stores and I believe they(who exactly?) all have been secretly screaming my name (Princess come oooo Princess come ooo) Because their mumu Precious Gem has been lost.. ooo i have spent a lot of my money in this industryHA they haf chop my money gan ni ooooo.
Anytime I go to the stores to go buy a coffee scrub, the price ranges from 5€ – 30€ or even more. The last time I got one was for 8.99€ and my friend actually looked at me like I was running mad but I told her I loved it and it was for my Bodaaayyy…
Since i began doing it myself, oooo i love how my Body feels and better still i know exactly what ingredients are going on my Body.
Coffee has a lot of beauty Beneficials and this Homemade body scrub makes your skin not only succulent but also tighten your skin. So come with me as I take you on the journey of Coffee scrub.
Benefits of Coffee Scrub
- It exfoliates dead skin away
- It makes your skin so soft to touch
- It improves circulation of blood in your body
- It tightens the skin
- It moisturize your skin and makes it feel succulent due to the 🥥 coconut oil
- It soothes and calm your skin due to the Aloe Vera
- It has a healing effect on your skin due to the honey 🍯
You will need
- 2 tablespoons of coffee (freshly ground or used)
- 1 tablespoon of coconut oil
- 1 tablespoon of honey
- 1 tablespoon of Aloe Vera gel
- 1 teaspoon of lemon juice ( optional)
- Mix the ingredients together until it forms a paste
- Apply the scrub to your face first before getting into the shower and when in the shower apply to the body and massage well for as long as you can
- Wash it off and feel the greatest of your skin come alive
This scrub also makes your palm feel tender and soft for like three days. It is really lovely to feel your palm after the scrub and the most wonderful thing about this DIY scrub is you know it’s not chemically done.
Beautiful skin REQUIRES COMMITMENT not a MIRACLE.Ernö Laszlo
I would love to hear from you and how you are coping with the quarantine? And also when you try the scrub either on your face or body, please do holla at me and tell me how it felt. You can also use this to take care of yourself since we are all trying new things out..
I hope we’ll all overcome this hard time. Stay safe my lovelies and also be very careful!
Do you think our Modern Society Lacks Empathy?
What do you think?? Are the people becoming more Empathless or the society is pushing them to? Please do leave a reply, like, share and follow back. Thank you 😘😘
You would not believe the insolence people have. Well, the question is if they even see it at all.
One afternoon I went to visit my friend after work. I was with her for two hours eating, chatting and discussing while she was preparing to go to work. At around 3:40 pm we decided to take the train, she going to work and I was going home.
As we boarded the train, I wanted to go up the first floor of the train and she countered that it would not be convenient for her , since she would be coming down at the next two junctions. I on the other hand, wanted to sit close to a window and just sleep. But then she always wins (the big head). So we sat down close to the door where bicycles 🚲 and Mamas always have a spot. There a lady sat opposite us with her bicycle. I and my friend noticed how she was stealing looks (no-no) not stealing looks but looking right at us the whole time. We kept our cool and decided to ignore her while chatting.
After a while, another lady came from the other coach and decided to pitch her bicycle against the other bicycles there. After that She left to sit elsewhere. Then BOOM something happened which left us Speechless. The Bicycles all tumbled and fell onto the other woman who was staring at us the whole time. Her bags and books fell off her, and we scrambled to help her get her things up. (But guess what? She did not say thank you to us) and the lady whose bicycle caused the whole commotion just sat there while her Girlfriend who we had not seen earlier stood up to come to pick their bicycle without uttering a word… NO word, no sorry, no sympathy, or asked if the lady was injured or to see if something had happened to her or us!! That left me and my friend perplexed like astounded like WTF…? And we were just looking at each other with no words but knowing we were both sending each other thousands of words with our silence and stare.
This got me thinking, why are people emotionless? Baseless? Or rather lacking Empathy by the day. So I read up on it and I came to realize that Empathy is the ability to understand another person’s reality while thinking about or being aware of their feelings. There are people like those two or rather three ladies who did not have this quality. After reading this up I realized I have encountered such in my life as well and I could identify them as such:
How do you Identify an Empathless person.
- They do not pay you attention. They do not worry about you and are so focused on themselves because they care less about what happens to you.
- They are unsympathetic and do not feel the urge to comfort you of your pain or what you are going through
- They are selfish and do not trust anyone
- They are also Egoistic
- They find solace in Pain
Most of us have had Interaction or similar cases like this or even worse with our Partners, Bestfriends, Co-workers, Siblings, Parents and so on that leave us baffled. It still surprises and chagrins us when people we consider Families, friends, loved ones, decent, kind people seem to abandon us when we most need their emotional support.
This kind of interrelationship builds up to resentment, provocation, criticism and counterattacks. But this is what I have learnt from people with this emotions. If you have no empathy for yourself, no matter the love you give them, no matter how you try to make them accept you and also try to get their validation. At the very end they will not empathize with you.
How to come to Terms with an unemphathetic person
Do not get me wrong I am not saying they are bad people what I am saying is that you have to look into yourself and and know what you are standing for. Are you in whatever Situation you are with an unemphathetic person because you want to prove something? or feel seen? or worthful? These people have a lot on them so therefore you can only give back to these people when you:
- When you are there to feel with them
- When you come to the realisation that you accept them for who they are
- When you have no expectations
- When you pratcice self compassion and show yourself love
- When you find someone caring to talk to e.g Therapist or loving friends
- When you stop jumping through hoops for them and let it drain your Spirit
I feel really sad that they lack empathy because of things that must have happened at one time in their lives, traumatized childhood upbringings, lack of self-worth, loveless relationships and It’s like a never-ending bad cycle… starting from a loveless marriage that affects every member in the family, and when the children grow up from such environment, how do we expect them to know how to love and connect? The world is full of detached connections. This is a universal issue of our world pushing us towards Individualism besides many other issues too.
I am truly passionate and concerned about the lack of empathy that people show towards one another.
I am truly passionate and concerned about the lack of empathy that people show towards one another.David Cross
I hope the newer generation will have an increased awareness in educating their children and demonstrating to them with examples of how to love and relate in their relationship in other to grow emotionally healthy children.
This all starts with us, we have to change what we can change, but we should not waste our time and energy trying to change someone who does not want to be changed.
Do you think our Society has become less Empathless?
Please feel free to comment on your experience with Lack of Empathy and what can be done in situations like this. I would be glad to hear from you.
This is my Birth month and i am so exicited. Happy new month everyone.
A dose of positivity. A little positivity goes a long way.
I want to use this medium to say that positive vibes is contagious. You can’t always be a downer. I feel down most of the time when things do not go my way too.
I watched the film ”Living in Bondage” (Breaking free) on Netflix and it is the sequel of the film ”Living in Bondage” which tells the story of Nnamdi Okeke, a young man who seems sympathic and inexperienced. The story of Nnamdi is very relatable because he wears his frustrations right on his sleeves. Nnamdi quits his job in the hope of opening a company of his own, in the aim of achieving greater success. The dream of being Independent did not pull through. Nnamdi’s uncontrollable pursue of success – fast cars, easy living and flashy lifestyle made him set out for a muffing quest for the extensive life, one that he would do whatever it takes to achieve it. Moreover, the point to prove himself that he is the better son to his father inevitably took him on this precarious quest.
Andy Okeke (Nnamdi Okeke biological father) mysteriously learns about a son he never knew existed. He is warned that his son is going down the path which he (Andy) sought out 27 years ago. It is a life-threatening journey for him and he does not want his son to go down that same path. Of course, the reunion of father and son did not go well and Nnamdi decides not to heed to his father’s advice.
Finally, Nnamdi‘s discovers the magnitude of his actions. He faces an enormous and regrettable predicament that has eventually become his bondage. He struggles to break free. In order to prove his commitment to a cultist group, he is instructed to sacrifice a loved one. In the film, the viewer sees he loves two people immensely, his brother (Toby) and girlfriend (Kelly).
I know you ask yourself, why I have decided to add a summary of the film ”Living in Bondage” It is to make a statement that at the end of it all, what helped Nnamdi was the bond between him and his brother (Toby) who came to his rescue. The dose of positivity Toby gave Nnamdi was what saved him at the end. And here is a dialogue between Nnamdi and Toby👇🏾
Toby :Somehow, we will get through this. Remember when I bashed Daddy`s car do you remember what you told me? You said to me what you go through I go through you did not bash the car
Toby and Nnamdi: we bashed the car.
Toby: You are my brother, my blood till the very end.
They both hugged at the end doing their brother stunts with the hands.
I felt that this dialogue between him and his brother was what gave him the strength to be able to defeat the cult that was after his life.
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.Leo Buscaglia
I am grateful, I have someone who is my Pillar and is there to always encourage me and tell me to share my worries. I am grateful for my parents who care about me and their prayers go before me. I am grateful for friends who whenever I call or texts, respond with the question (what is the way forward?) than berating me or telling me it was my fault.
Although we can find ourselves in a difficult time, we should have the courage to ask about the wellbeing of our neighbours, friends, colleagues, family members and also share some nice words with them which would go a long way. We do not know what any of them are passing through and you could be their joy that day or moment in time.
Kind words are short and easy to speak but their echos are truly endlessMother Teresa
I hope you enjoy this post and do not forget to add a dose of Positivity in everything you do. Share your thoughts with me in the comment section below, like my post and do not forget to follow back.
Thank you 😘😘.
Before I began writing this post I have trashed about 4 of this piece because every time I start I always ended up writing something else that was not related to it… you see my life?
Now I sit here chewing an Alnatura Kokos chocolate because am soo jittery and stressed.
Stress is something that kills a lot of people and has a lot of detrimental effect on our body, mind and health.
We come across Stress in our daily life and think about how we can prevent our past deeds from reoccurring, in order to avoid being stressed.
This is our daily lives! Going to work, running to get the bus, train, trying to get the kids to school before work, go get them after work, sick, tired, family issues, parents ill, send money back home, school problems, house problems, Jobs on the low rise, People lose their keys, arrive late for appointments and forget to take important trips. Chaos, disorder and lack of plans make our lives difficult. They make our friends mad at us and we get holes in our teeth trying to put some order in it and so on.
Do you sometimes fantasize about an uncomplicated life? In which everything can be easy without having to deal with all the adversities of everyday life, errands, interruptions and other annoyances?
I do not know if this good life can be achieved.
Nowadays we try to make everything as simple and natural as possible. But can it be achieved?
There is no such thing as a completely simple Stress-free life, but then if we had it, it would probably no longer be life.
The simplification of life is one of the steps to inner peace. A persistent simplification will create an inner and outer well-being that places harmony in one’s life.
Nevertheless, we should try to make it easier all the time, because it gets complicated by itself.
If you don’t make an effort to maintain efficiency, simplicity and order, you soon sink into piles of paper, lose the overview and get overwhelmed with everything around you.
Chaos has always meant danger from the beginning of time. This is another reason why simplicity is a basic human need.
The simplest way offers various steps that affect all important areas of your life: your things, your money, your time, your health, your fellow human beings, your partner, your ego and your spirituality.
Simplicity of living, if deliberately chosen, implies a compassionate approach to life. It means that we are choosing to live our daily lives with some degree of conscious appreciation of the condition of the rest of the world.
Struggles, difficulties are part of life’s business. The war we are in is finished. It is said in the Book now thanks be unto God who always causes us to triumph in Christ Jesus. For every battle of life for every difficulty, for every struggle, there is an assurance of victory over anything.
If if you ask me right? Princess how do you deal with your daily Stress hmm (thinking Deeply). I will say at every moment I am stressed, it is always a chain reaction which is from loosing my mind, then getting numb, then trying afterwards to get out of whatever situation I am finding myself in and I act on it immediately.
Truth be told Stress makes me act well. I found out when I am stressed I do things I think normally I would not be able to do it. It takes me out of my comfort zone and pushes me to do more.
Afterwards, I take out my Chilled Red wine (oh yes I like my Red wine chilled) and then drink it because finally I cannot come and kill myself…. 😂😂 I say to myself it will be alright because I am alive and grateful to be so.
My Lovelies how do you deal with your daily stress? What have you learnt about yourself when you are stressed? please do share your stories with me and also like the post and share also with your loved ones.
Happy new month
I am leaning on my windowsill and looking out my bedroom window with a glass of Carrot juice mixed with lemon, orange and Grapefruit. It is quite tasty you should try it. Ok back to why I am at my window. I just finished my Morning yoga flow and wanted to bring out my clothes before I go have my bath and then I heard the birds chirping.
I started wondering (wow) they are so loud! I started to ask myself, have I ever heard them so loud before? Which of the birds is chirping which way? Because they seem so many and their chirps were so loud and soothing like music to my ears. Why have I not heard them so intensive before? These are the questions that were running through my mind as I looked out my window.
You get what you focus on so focus on what you want
As I look out my window I realised for the first time that I am so still and everything around me is quiet. I am able to block out the noises of cars driving by and just concentrate on the birds and myself. Then I thought back and realised that practically all my life I have never been so still as the past month of this quarantine.
I have also come to realise in this time that life is really precious and you have to know what belongs to your heart and the people around you that you cherish and to know not only about their wellbeing but also their mental state of health.
Everyone has been thrown down a loop, everyone is at home trying to balance themselves and their businesses. Some are working from the comfort of their homes and others like myself are at home because their work has been halted due to this pandemic.
At the moment, I am trying to have a clear understanding of who I am, what I want, and what my foundation or core is and how I can build it in this period and after this period.
I hear all the time in this Pandemic that you have to build a skill or rather do something new for your self and I am like why not stay calm, do not overthink yourself but try and breathe in new air into your lungs and then the other things and skills will follow.
Currently everything is on a standstill and the time is not respecting anyone by standing still with us but rather flying by. You need to remember what is great about you, what your strengths are and where they lie. I mean this time you are taking out time for yourself to know yourself now, breathing in and out and knowing that no matter what you are passing through we will be fine later on.
We are in this together and as we go through this COVID-19, I chant to myself that I love to get through times like this because it will bring out the best in me, it will make me think clearly, learn myself well and also to care for my health and then try and help other people, my family, to call someone and check on them if they are well or rather write them to know how they are doing.
Do things in this period all day in a way that uniquely suits.
There is absolutely no need to Panic.
All these have taught me that life is really precious and should not be toiled with: Yes, we are humans but there are things powerful than us. If a virus can shut the whole world down!!! what cannot?
I wish you all well and would love to hear from you and how you are going through with Quarantine, what is helping you keep sane.
The last months of last year from October was a trying time for me. I felt I was not in a good state of mind. I was stressed and I got into a habit😱.
I was in a phase that I could not streamline my thoughts.
Then it started… I started judging people, if someone passed me by at work or wherever I was standing, sitting, looking at, in the train, while I was walking, in the restaurant, on the internet. I was constantly judging people either the way they looked, spoke, the race moved, smelt, or behaved.
Every single time I did it I felt like I was being drained of something but then again it came up and it would be back to square one class 101 on judging others.
I realised I spent so much time judging people that I started hating myself, I did not feel the rush of energy I always have ( ask people who know me), I started feeling less of myself and my state of mind became unproductive.t
I slowly started thinking (hey 😨 this is like a tunnel you fall into and climbing out feels like the walls of Jericho to get out.) What would have triggered this Emotion, feeling down and all because the same time I was judging these people it could have also been me they were equally judging. To be honest with you? I did not feel comfortable thinking that it could be me on that pedestal table. For all, I know the same things I did judge others about could also be what they judged me off and even more.
So why did I do it?
I traced it back to the time I started feeling too comfortable in my zone and I wanted more but did not know how to get out, to the time I started feeling inadequate of getting to a certain position in my life. I knew I could change if only I could master my mindset and streamline my thoughts to be about positive things. I am not saying everything and at every time that it has to be perfect, No!! What I am trying to say is that only when this thoughts and feeling starts dominating your thoughts and taking the existence of your happiness from you, then is it paramount for you to change things. Because happiness is the key.
In the following paragraphs, I will be writing three reasons why I think we judge others, what happens when we judge others and why we need to stop judging people.
Why do we Judge Others?
- I think we Judge others when our life feels constant and we are seeking for a change. When the feeling of t not moving forward seems unsurmountable, and we get jealous when we see others living their best lives and this pushes us to automatically judge others.
- I think we judge others when we are insecure about certain things in our lives and for some, they are clueless about what the problem is and how they can tackle it either from their childhood, family, parents, friends at work, their Bodies and so on. All these tend to lead one to judge others they see as perfect and thereby feeling good when they do it.
- I also think we judge others when we feel threatened. Either by the status of your partner, co-worker, friend, celebrity or when these people buy a new car, cloth, house and so on. We become scared that they would keep getting better whilst you stay under.
What happens when we judge others
- I think that when we judge others that we also judge ourselves and it makes us not only feel less confident but also we do not seem it able to raise our heads high.
- I noticed that while I judged others it was not of what they did to me but the Stereotypes surrounding their ethnicity, their Gender, appearances and language. Forgetting I am human, a woman and in a foreign country and there is practically a stereotype for everyone.
- I started thinking negatively and it breeds Negatively impacts in almost anything you think about. This could have an impact not only on yourself but people around you.
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves
Why you need to stop Judging
- Try to streamline your thoughts on positive things. Find no FAULT in others. Try as much as possible to avoid contact with people who also judge others so you do not fall. Always say something positive in your heart and you will notice that eventually, it will start popping out of your mouth
- Avoid Stereotyping people because you do not know them personally and even if you do it will only breed hatred in you.
- Try and focus everything in you to manifesting and meditating good things into your life.
There is a story behind every person. There’s a reason why they are the way they are. Think about that before you judge someone
Lastly, do not worry about others and do not judge others. Be kind to yourself and love yourself. Observe things and the world around you and then slowly but surely your perspective will be broadened.
I am getting there eventually because bad energy gat to stay far away😁😂. I cannot change whatever it was I was annoyed about but I can change ME.
Thank you for reading and I will be pleased to read your comments below on why do you judge people? How do you feel about yourself afterwards? And also how can it be stopped?.
I wish you all a lovely February.
When I begin to think about what I have or had been through which in comparison to others is nothing, then I begin to think of 🤔 what would have been if I said the truth, If I wasn’t scared 😟, If I was bold enough, If I was more confident, If I had run and looked for help. If ….. if…. if …. only if…
Yesterday the 31.12.2019 I was thinking out loud and saying that I was grateful for everything last year had brought me and was going to make sure I go in harder next year, which practically starts today. My friend got a little upset that the ‘New year Resolution’ thing is being hyped. He said that there is nothing like a new year but just a new day. I agree with him but not totally.
I see a new year not only as a new day but also a new start. This goes for the decision I will be making, Goals to be attained, bad habits to be broken, to be more focused and committed.
A new year, Yes, could be just another new day, but for me it is the mental feeling I get from it. The feeling that motivates me, encourages my soul and lits the fire that I could be a better me this new year. Oh yes in the middle of the year it may not go as planned but we will keep moving.
The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrateOprah Winfrey
Life is too short to be worrying and complaining but instead focus on how blessed you are for the simple things that you have.
Whenever I look 👀 back, I know now for sure that whatever happens in your life is your destiny and was predestined to be so.
Despite the challenges I am facing , I always want to be happy and positive even though some could be so hard. But the point is to be grateful and thankful for all you have.
2019 taught me a whole lot of things and gave me a new Dimension in life and also to see things from a different perspective.
Some things are so little we forget to take it into consideration. Little things they are, but are the biggest things. The importance of Gratitude 🙏 , are things like the air we breathe in, the bed we sleep in, food, a roof over our heads, love, happiness, being healthy and happy.
These things fill me in and make me glow from the inside because I am grateful to have these things.
Happiness is the utmost blessing a man can get if he has it. When you realize it the Earth 🌏 would move her best side to you.
How about you? What are you grateful for? Do you believe in New year Resolution? Do you think it is being hyped? Drop in the comment box below on how happy or the experiences you have had.
Happy New year and a wonderful month!
My dream of a better Nigeria 🇳🇬 is a Dream of a better me.
A better me bettering my surroundings, being kind, uplifting, motivational, aspiring and passionate to my people, friends, Family, coworkers and anyone i come in contact with.
A better Nigeria 🇳🇬 is a better me not collecting bribes, not coming to the notion of doing my neighbor bad, being covetous, hating on others struggles and not being contented with what i have.
A better me is a diligent worker. There is a saying in German that says;
“Pray as though no work could help, and work as though no prayer could help”
When I work hard, I have no time for anyone. I only have time in bettering myself .
Work is a short form of Productivity.
When I work hard, I tend to dream big because I know i will get there through my efforts and consistency. This notion does not work the other way round that is; when I don’t work but I tend to dream Big. NO!!!! It doesn’t work that way.
My dream of a better Nigeria is a better me helping the Blinds, the people with intellectual disabilities and people with moderate mental retardation. In all these cases and more is my country so back on the knowledge of these people.
A better Nigeria is when I stop complaining that Nigeria is bad and our leaders are corrupt and start to be a better me.
A better Nigeria is a better me bringing in focus on our strengths and the drive force behind us as a people.
Nigerians everywhere, anywhere, anytime are the most resilient, happy, cheerful people regardless of their situations.
It is better if we could start being better Nigerians by teaching ourselves and empowering ourselves to be able to empower the people around us.
I will try and I hope you all would too.
I AM A LIVING TESTIMONY.
P.S I would love ❤️ to see your comment on how you can better yourself and your country. Thank you 🙏.
I am trying to be tough.
But I can’t, cause I miss the Talks, stupid talks and nothing talks.
I am trying to be tough
Even though I know I have been manipulated, lied to, treated badly and dehumanized.
I still come out of it all not looking back and knowing that one day, I would say to myself ‘oh I was tough and still am’.
But then I ask myself what went wrong?
Was it You? Your inhibitions? Your Exhibitions? Are you not able to perform? Are you not able to Conform to the rules? Your Fears? Your over happiness? Your …….
I am trying to be tough
But I have to talk to myself Because if I don’t, I might lose it.
I am trying to be tough
But then I start counting how lucky I am that I went through the Experience. And how lucky I am that I will still pass through more challenges.
I have to thank a whole lot of people who have in any way turned me down or tried to look down on me. Those people gave me a new perspective on life.
This all has thought me that I am worth it.
I am trying to be tough
But then I start from the beginning remembering what never existed… no memories…
Then I am tough.
Because then I remember I am Me and will be me and when I start realising that I need to get and set my standards straight then I will be tough.
I am tough
Because I hope and also believe that for me to be me I have to be tough and not try to be.
I have seen Arse lickers, i have seen people who belittle themselves or think if they lick arses they would be pitied or given a share or rather be favoured.
According to oxforddictionaries the definition is ;
You all know we live in an arse-licking economy.
The realisation of your entity or rather your life comes in when you feel shrunked, crowded or overpowered than you can imagine. Then you start Feeling that you have no choice than to give in or even start agreeing against your principles and practices.
This is the life we live in, making people bend into not what we envisioned for ourselves but for the purpose of comfort and peace to reign.
Have you ever thought about people who goes against the comfort of others are seen as aliens? Or people who refuse to lick arses are seen as non compromising, too loud, empty space and also as stupid people untill this people start making money, or start making waves and also been heard.
You don’t have to conform, you don’t have to be quiet, you don’t have to listen to anyone or other people choices for you!!, You don’t have to put other peoples consideration before yours, you don’t have to live behind the norm of the societies you live in.
YOU HAVE TO BE YOU.
I tell myself Princess be you. Don’t let anyone try to say, you too loud, or you too happy, or don’t sing any more, or you too local, or you too old, or you too skinny, or you too fat or you won’t make it life or in a relationship, or you too sick or too fit.
Look don’t let anyone decieve you in saying too much of everything is bad. I think it is better to be or have too much as too less. If you like something go for it and if you dont like something change it or rather leave it.
Rather than licking arses to get what you want stand up for yourself and get something done!!
You can share your thoughts and experience of what you think. Would love to know.
I am great, i will be great. Am great.
These words i chant to myself as i was on the train going to work, when i finally realised… i had to get out from this cocoon of laziness i set in my brain. Since this month began, i have had this feeling of .. i don’t give a f💟k attitude on not doing anything. Which has really been a pain to me, cause i feel weak and useless doing nothing.
If you are out there and also feeling this way… raise your hands please😂🙋🙋
There are many types of i dont give a f💝k attitude and mine was the one that can make someone loses focus on his/her purpose in life. 😢😢😢 and thats definitly not my aim.
On my last Post I spoke about ‘what is your Purpose in life’ seriously i began to doubt me, myself and I 😒🙆🙆 in the sense that in this month of January, I had a NULL, ZERO, NO Orientation and Motivation mood in either reading, going to the University, being creative or the zeal to go to work.
I told a friend of mine (Opons) her nickname. How I was feeling and she said if everyone was feeling this way, definitely not me and I said why not? I mean everyone goes through this Phase in life and even more. So why not me?
So dont beat yourself so much… at least that’s what i tell myself 😂😂👸👸 and I try to think positive and know that no Condition is Permanent.
Every year people set goals on what to achieve… and some say they do whatever pleases them… 😂or (as the spirit leads). But for people like me it has to be clear. I have to know how, when, and what I have to do in order to see my thinking or dreams comes to Realisation. Maybe it’s because am a Virgo…… 😕😕😕
Anyways I had to write this to tell anyone who reads this that regardless of what you are going through, sickness, hardship, no Motivation, no orientation, no money, or if you lose someone. Bear it in mind that you are not alone and no one can help you rise out of whatever pit you are in if you dont talk to yourself.
Talk to yourself… every day and also pray.
Please share with me and others in the comment section below on how this year been so far.
Happy new year my darlings and great success and achievement in everything you do.
P.S. I also devote this Text to my Cousins the Georgewills and pray God consoles them on losing their father my Uncle and a friend who lost her Mum.
Live, laugh, Love
Today as i laid on my Bed, my first thought was,
Princess what’s your purpose in life?
I have always asked myself this question but within the next second it leaves my mind or rather i thwart it away and focus on something else to organize in my brain.
Some people would love to travel, get married, have kids, learn new things, get rich, Study, buy expensive and Luxury cars, build good houses, meet their Idols, be Singers, renowned Artist and Professionals at whatever their choice of Career they choose.
I for one has always pondered what I wanted to be. As a kid I wanted to be a Doctor or an engineer (my family can attest to this I could repair practically everything… I mean tv’s and radios😛).
It was fixed in my head. But I loved to dance, listen to Music,(I could sing the whole playlist from the Radio), Pest people😂😛and also make people laugh.
I studied in the direction of my dreams but was not so sturdy like I thought I would be. Till I found what I love to do. Media.
Your purpose in life should be what Fulfils you. My childhood friend Blessing O. David said
Every one should find out what he has been called here for by God, and what God wants us to do with whom and how he wants us to do it.
I think for me its Happiness. Happiness is not a Livestyle but a choice between what works for you or rather what keeps you going, moving, motivates you, encourages you, wants to make you help others and also wants to make you live for another day.
Am still on the journey on finding my Purpose in life and also praying i keep getting directions on it.
My questions for you is, what is your purpose in life? And how do you intend to achieve it?
I Stand here not knowing my fate, What should i think? I only write my Fate once in a year…… Do i even Love …..? Does it look, seem and feel like Love?
I Stand here not knowing how to express my feelings, What should i think? This Situationship is driving me CRAZY! Do i even know how that feels? Cause it hurts where i never knew had pains, Do they even know how to relate to this Situation?
I Stand here trying to get my feelings in order, What should i think? I’m in doubt, thoughts scattered everywhere, Do i need to stay?
I Stand here confused, ripped out.
You know those friends who never say sorry whenever they are wrong.
You know those friends who you never know about their lifes. But they know your History uptill your great- great-grand parents.
You know those friends who never invites you to come eat, drink coffee or even water!!
You know those friends who always say their accounts is empty but its loaded.
You know those friends who never has your time.
You know those friends of benefits😉
You know those friends who are lowkey jealous of your success, beauty, brains, energy and literally who wants to be like you.
You know those friends who always eats from you. Always taking and never giving.
You know those friends who are jealous that you have other people or friends than them.
You know those friends who always say they will do this or that but never comes around doing them.
You know those friends who always lie so you dont know their next moves, cause they think you would do the same or steal their shine😔
You know those friends who always wants to do the same thing like you.
You know those friends who always parties but with them you can never discuss your Future together.
You know those friends who backstabs and gossips behind you.
You know those friends who never lends their help rather they think up excuses not to.
I have had those friends and still going to be having them
The question is; which of those friends do you have?
And how do you deal with them? It will be nice to read from you. Have a lovely weekend😘
I have been having this daydream of someone taking my Portemonnaie. Till it happened.😢😞😱
I was a bit ill at work after my day of fainting. Lol. I have never been this weak which makes me so unhappy that i can’t function like a normal person.
So i drank a lot of water this day because i was told to. I visited the Toilet more often which was a bit irritating cause i felt my bladder will burst if i dont.😵😵😵😵😵.
Later in the day i was coming back from work. I missed the train which means the next one was going to be in an hour. I know my fate so i called my Friend💝 so i could make my waiting a bit pleasant and short. When i ended my call, i decided to visit the Toilet once more before the train moves because its always a long journey.
I decided then to leave my bag on my seat if not it would be taken. But i took my phone with me thinking it wasnt going to take two minutes. My other Princess conscience said take your Portmonaiee you big head before you regret it. I did.
While coming back from my PiPi moment i saw a ‘Spacko‘ man checking my bag out and i called out to him saying. Hey dude you see what you looking for? He turned and said ohh sorry miss i was checking if there was an empty bottle ‘Pfand‘ in your bag. I was so pissed i felt like crushing his head, i told him to take the whole bag that it would be better for us two😈😈😈😈.
Ok ok my saying is how come people who were sitting close didnt tell him Hey! Leave that bag alone! It ain’t yours! You know try to fend him away cause they knew it was not his. But this Land is a no Mans Land. ‘OYO’. Nobody gives a fig about you, if you dont take care of yourself, nobody will.
At the end am grateful that i listened to that Princess conscience and God also.
So be cautious, hardworking, thankful, grateful and always stay happy in this new month of May.😘😘😘
It will be cool if at one moment i could be black and the next second white.. happy now and the next sad… No i learnt that a long time ago. It doesnt work for me. Am always in awe how people do that!! Am either one or nothing at all. I get so agitated when am happy, smell a good perfume, when am buying facial products.. ohhh you really would not want to be close to me… lol oh yes am soo addicted to those stuffs, when am about to eat a worthy Eba and soup, when am about eating meat lol.lets go back to our headies.. when am happy it radiates i feel this aura.. I always have it. I try as much as i can not to be annoyed because its not only good for me and my well being but also with the people around me. I snap, frown the whole day cause i cant pretend am happy when i know damn well am not. Things pratically go downhill for me.
I wish there can be a time-snapback where people can be able to erase certain things. I dont know about you but when am nervous i break plates… no no not intentional but it falls off my hands, i start thinking in circles, my energy zaps out. The funny thing is i always Sleep well even better than a normal day for me.. lol
So this a new one for me and i would like this blog to be a conversational blog whereby you write what makes you happy and also zaps you out.
Thank you for Reading. Much love 😘😘.
Well I know it may not seem real or acceptable. But its true. I ask myself this question fast everyday and am sure most of y´all do too *winks*.
Some People say love comes from within or that it’s a force of nature that when man realises or recognizes it , they tend to go for it.
Well as a matter of fact Love hit me from a different angle not from parents, siblings, Family or even boyfriend. It hit me from Life. Trying to understand and appreciate what it did to me .
And what it does and mean to people in General.
This giving and taking is not what love is all about it’s the challenges, the giving and not expecting. But you doing your part to appreciate this giving and letting it reflects in not only your life but towards others and letting it spread not by spraying Money on the streets but through your happiness and ability to cheer up even though its not ok.
This love that can never be bought, sold or compromised is just LOVE! period. I try to get annoyed sometimes or even want to stay away but there is always this rush of cold air which gushes down my heart or rather do I say my Soul and it clears whatever thought am Building up to be angry. Am still amazed at how it happens .
A lot of People recognizes what Love is all about like from a mother to her Child, love between a man and woman, love between Brothers and sisters, best friends and so on Yes I believe it does exist for this People.
If love heals as I always hear then why are some Things still Happening to us? why can’t we live as our Brothers keeper? why do we think “not normal”? why do we feel when we are in love our senses are supposed to leave us and act with just intuition and not with our heads? why are there wars? why are there people who suffers or intimidate the others cause their bearings are more than the other? * letting out a sigh* It seems different to me. Oh yes it does.
That`s why I say love struck me from a different angle and it was from LIFE!! itself its HUGE, overbearing, intimidating and frustrating. But something always happen to give you Love or to define that meaning.
It means different to every single being on Earth.
I read a lot and I found out that there is a million and one definition of LOVE not one corresponds to the other. We feel different, think different and act different.
So as I take you on my journey to how I feel, think and Love I would really do appreciate if you give me or write down below on your definition of Love. **hugs and kisses**.
Please do read, love and share
your girly darling,
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