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Daily Post: Day 4; Do your Emotions get a hold on you?

Princess Anyasodor

Welcome back to Daily Post: Day 4. What is it you feel when you feel that you are not enough for anything, Job, Partner, Parents, Work, Friends, Children and even Yourself!!

What triggers your Emotions? As people, we go through emotional problems, and these can ruin a lot of things if we do not control them. Regardless of what and who you are, if you do not have them in Check, it can destroy some valuable things you have going on for yourself.

Emotion is a normal response reacting to your environment, which is quite familiar. These are the things we experience and are considered normal.

Emotions is a conscious mental reaction (such as anger or fear) subjectively experienced as strong feeling usually directed toward a specific object and typically accompanied by physiological and behavioural changes in the body

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/emotion

Emotions are not permanent and do not last. There are some times in your life when you are down and some times when you feel high, and these things dictate our behaviours.

So how do we create a personal plan before a crisis happen? How do we move with our emotions so as not to interfere with our daily lives? And environment because the more we allow our circumstances or emotion to direct us, the more we see people leave us because it takes so long for them not to see our points of view.

So many of us allow our moods to dictate our lives, and these types of things are detrimental to our healthy being and mental being as well. These are temporary, or else we make them a daily life chatter to become permanent in our life. Some people have gone through lots of traumas and do not have guidance to overcome these traumas.
Do you feel you have ruined a lot of things in your life due to your emotions?
Do you know yourself?

Many of us do not know who we are. It does not matter what you are or who you are. Our emotions can dictate our lives if we let them have the upper hand.
You do need to start paying attention to how you feel when you have these feelings.

You need to know exactly why are you angry? It would help if you allowed yourself to feel whatever you are feeling and not try to shy away. Whatever you are feeling is not an excuse to be insensitive, rude and bossy towards others or yourself. If you need to release it when you feel annoyed (for example) because you did not catch the bus, you need to sit with that thought for a while and then get yourself together.

Sometimes a girl has to laugh 😄.


One day at work, I attended to customers and snapped at them at the slightest questions they asked. Note; I was not taking notice of this. I was angry and irrational that day, so a lady on the line, when it got to her turn(my friend at work), asked me if I was on my period. ( ladies 😊 you all know how it is, right?) I said yes, and she told me to take a deep breath and relax, maybe take a break, drink something, and I would be fine. She then told me how I was behaving. These got me thinking, and I decided to pen the thoughts down. I let my emotions rule me even though I knew I was annoyed but practically nothing. I was deliberating, taking it out on those innocent people. I won’t say it never happened again, but I try as much as possible not to let my anger unto people who have no cents in it.
Do not allow time to pass you by when you are feeling down but instead recognise that you do not have a lot of time to waste on resentment, unforgiveness and hate but rather stand by the scriptures, meditate and maintain the light.

The way we change the quality of our life is a change in our thought

P.A.A

Be anchored unto the word of God or Meditations, peace of God, promises of God and his purpose in your life.
We can make a shift when we are more placed in our Spiritual space.

Some questions were asked in this post. It would be lively to know your thoughts on them. We could have a discussion on them.
I would be glad to see your comment in the box below on how you have tried to overcome the feelings you have had or are still having.

Thank you. We see tomorrow for Day 5.

@princessanyasodor

Daily Post, Positivity, Motivation, Love

Daily Post: Day 3. What do you know about Discernment?

Princess Anyasodor

Do you always have that gut feeling? When you know something is off, and you don’t have peace about a situation and a person? Do you sometimes have that little voice that comes so fast and slips away like it was never there?

Today we will be talking about the practical side of discernment and how you can listen to your gut as it can prevent or forewarn you on what’s about to come.

Firstly, what is Discernment?

It is defined as the ability to decide between truth and error, right and wrong. Discernment is also the ability to make careful distinctions in our thinking about the fact. In other words, it is the ability to think biblically.

John MacArthur

For a while now, I have been reading about what it means, and to be honest, it is mainly linked 🔗 to various biblical quotes and readings of the Bible. It is a gift that comes from God, and that each of us has this gift as an insight to penetrate past a person veneer and the surface of a situation and also past the words that a person is using to judge people and situations accurately and when I say judge I do not mean passing judgment on as I wrote on my other post https://princessanyasodor.com/2020/02/03/judging-others🎤🎤/ I mean judging as in assessing and evaluating.

When you are tapping into your gift of discernment, you can access and evaluate people in their motives and the situations that you find yourself in. This post discusses how to know when to listen to your inner guts and tap into the flow and let God show you what you need to do in any given situation.

Now you are thinking about what this is. These are those precise and concise words that flash through your mind or linger behind your mind like. For example, there is a nice person you know, but whenever you are around that person, you always do not connect with that person, or your friend tells you to come with them to a party and you have this little voice telling you not to go, or a mother who tells her son not to go out with some friends for a reason she actually cannot place her finger on, and so on. Some examples of these words are;

  • Don’t go
  • Stop
  • Pause
  • Get out now
  • Get more information
  • Step back
  • Don’t talk or hold your thought
  • Walk away
  • Don’t argue
  • Pick up the phone and call
  • Say I am sorry

These feelings, or skill, as I would put it, is up to us to nurture that seed of discernment that we have inside of us. So that when it’s time to discern people in their motives and situations it can be utilised. It can be nurtured in various ways, like through meditation or prayer. The more time you spend alone meditating or praying, the better tuned your spirit is to reading people better and seeing through their charades. These thoughts sometimes make you not sleep at night because it weighs heavily on your mind. When you have these thoughts, you desire one thing, but in retrospect, it is not suitable for you.

https://www.havehopeforthejourney.org/devotional-blog/a-prayer-of-discernment

Do you know that saying? That Every disappointment a blessing? Oh yes! Sometimes it is true! I am sure you must have also irked when you are around someone or even before getting into a relationship, but because that person was packaged just the way you like and want, you just decided to throw that intuition to the wind and then later it grows and bites your ass.

An important message is: when you are dealing with someone, you are also dealing with their frequency.

Princess 👑

Ways to know and surrender to your inner self in discerning situations.

  1. Surrending; paying attention to your inner self by meditating
  2. Calmness; that peace of mind you have about something and sure enough to walk away from it because it’s not good for you even though you want it.
  3. Empowerment; empowers us to act in accordance with our own lives and be able to act on our behalf

I have a friend who has the spirit of discernment, and it is an obvious one. Funny enough, when she tells her husband not to do something or to do something, he dismisses her. Then later that same thing, she warned him about rebounds, and he calls her a Wi###. ( you know 🧐)

Discernment is focusing on others and not on self because it allows you to assess if whatever situation you are in is good for you or not.

I will have to stop here for now and continue more on this topic next time. Please do leave a comment on how you see through the social mask people wear? And how do you deal with it? I will be happy to hear from you. Thank you

We will see here tomorrow on day four of daily post.

@princessanyasodor

Daily Post, Positivity, Motivation, Love

Daily Post: Day 2. Self Discovery

Princess Anyasodor

If you are struggling with self-discovery like I am, then I guess this post is for you. This strengthening of a personal relationship with oneself is coming from someone who is in the mix, or I would say, in the process of discovering herself.

I am not your everyday Positiveness guru who wakes up and sets her mind on something, manifests and be an all-around happy person. No, I am not that person. I thought I was, but Nah Nah Nah sometimes situations humbles you, and you have to learn yourself and know what your path and purpose is.

I am a firm believer that hard work and positiveness go hand in hand. The reason some people find this hard is that they do not genuinely want to put in some work. Sometimes life hit you hard, and one day you wake the F### up and see it for what it is. That is fine. I am still waking up, and it is through these challenges, tough love and the knowledge that I am accountable to every choice and decisions I make to my self that pushes me through.

I am in control of my body, hands, mind and decisions. So long as you are above 18+, you are supposed to take an active initiative to maintain and honouring your life force energy and not allowing outside forces to dictate how you are going to live the life you want. Well, that is up to you to decide if you wish it so or not.

Some of these forces could be to point fingers at people who caused you trauma and pain, or to point fingers at situations that have not been of good to you also hinders your journey to self-discovery.

This example here was my case, but I learned early enough that regardless of whatever the situation was or is, I can blame myself or make myself accountable and find how I can make that situation better 🌟.

http://allthatsustains.com/an-important-part-of-self-discovery-we-often-overlook/

Secondly, also to do things that will make you proud of yourself so that your future self can look back and be like, wow, ❕ you did that and then you will see your reality shifting for you. You have to understand who and what is it you want to be and then embodying that being that you want to be

This is the day two post of my daily reflections. I hope you are all doing well. Please do leave a comment below stating your journey of self discovery. What can be done for oneself to be aligned with him/her/itself? I would be glad to read your comments.

Have a wonderful Sunday. Thank you.

@princessanyasodor.

Motivation, Nigeria, Better, love, Dedication,, Uncategorized

Judging others🎤🎤

Princess Anyasodor

The last months of last year from October was a trying time for me. I felt I was not in a good state of mind. I was stressed and I got into a habit😱.

I was in a phase that I could not streamline my thoughts.

Then it started… I started judging people, if someone passed me by at work or wherever I was standing, sitting, looking at, in the train, while I was walking, in the restaurant, on the internet. I was constantly judging people either the way they looked, spoke, the race moved, smelt, or behaved.

Every single time I did it I felt like I was being drained of something but then again it came up and it would be back to square one class 101 on judging others.

I realised I spent so much time judging people that I started hating myself, I did not feel the rush of energy I always have ( ask people who know me), I started feeling less of myself and my state of mind became unproductive.t

I slowly started thinking (hey 😨 this is like a tunnel you fall into and climbing out feels like the walls of Jericho to get out.) What would have triggered this Emotion, feeling down and all because the same time I was judging these people it could have also been me they were equally judging. To be honest with you? I did not feel comfortable thinking that it could be me on that pedestal table. For all, I know the same things I did judge others about could also be what they judged me off and even more.

So why did I do it?

I traced it back to the time I started feeling too comfortable in my zone and I wanted more but did not know how to get out, to the time I started feeling inadequate of getting to a certain position in my life. I knew I could change if only I could master my mindset and streamline my thoughts to be about positive things. I am not saying everything and at every time that it has to be perfect, No!! What I am trying to say is that only when this thoughts and feeling starts dominating your thoughts and taking the existence of your happiness from you, then is it paramount for you to change things. Because happiness is the key.

In the following paragraphs, I will be writing three reasons why I think we judge others, what happens when we judge others and why we need to stop judging people.

Why do we Judge Others?

  1. I think we Judge others when our life feels constant and we are seeking for a change. When the feeling of t not moving forward seems unsurmountable, and we get jealous when we see others living their best lives and this pushes us to automatically judge others.
  2. I think we judge others when we are insecure about certain things in our lives and for some, they are clueless about what the problem is and how they can tackle it either from their childhood, family, parents, friends at work, their Bodies and so on. All these tend to lead one to judge others they see as perfect and thereby feeling good when they do it.
  3. I also think we judge others when we feel threatened. Either by the status of your partner, co-worker, friend, celebrity or when these people buy a new car, cloth, house and so on. We become scared that they would keep getting better whilst you stay under.

What happens when we judge others

  1. I think that when we judge others that we also judge ourselves and it makes us not only feel less confident but also we do not seem it able to raise our heads high.
  2. I noticed that while I judged others it was not of what they did to me but the Stereotypes surrounding their ethnicity, their Gender, appearances and language. Forgetting I am human, a woman and in a foreign country and there is practically a stereotype for everyone.
  3. I started thinking negatively and it breeds Negatively impacts in almost anything you think about. This could have an impact not only on yourself but people around you.

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves

Carl Jung

Why you need to stop Judging

  1. Try to streamline your thoughts on positive things. Find no FAULT in others. Try as much as possible to avoid contact with people who also judge others so you do not fall. Always say something positive in your heart and you will notice that eventually, it will start popping out of your mouth
  2. Avoid Stereotyping people because you do not know them personally and even if you do it will only breed hatred in you.
  3. Try and focus everything in you to manifesting and meditating good things into your life.

There is a story behind every person. There’s a reason why they are the way they are. Think about that before you judge someone

Anonymous

Lastly, do not worry about others and do not judge others. Be kind to yourself and love yourself. Observe things and the world around you and then slowly but surely your perspective will be broadened.

I am getting there eventually because bad energy gat to stay far away😁😂. I cannot change whatever it was I was annoyed about but I can change ME.

Thank you for reading and I will be pleased to read your comments below on why do you judge people? How do you feel about yourself afterwards? And also how can it be stopped?.

I wish you all a lovely February.

@Princesspringles

Motivation, Uncategorized

Gratitude

Princess Anyasodor

When I begin to think about what I have or had been through which in comparison to others is nothing, then I begin to think of 🤔 what would have been if I said the truth, If I wasn’t scared 😟, If I was bold enough, If I was more confident, If I had run and looked for help. If ….. if…. if …. only if…

Yesterday the 31.12.2019 I was thinking out loud and saying that I was grateful for everything last year had brought me and was going to make sure I go in harder next year, which practically starts today. My friend got a little upset that the ‘New year Resolution’ thing is being hyped. He said that there is nothing like a new year but just a new day. I agree with him but not totally.

I see a new year not only as a new day but also a new start. This goes for the decision I will be making, Goals to be attained, bad habits to be broken, to be more focused and committed.

A new year, Yes, could be just another new day, but for me it is the mental feeling I get from it. The feeling that motivates me, encourages my soul and lits the fire that I could be a better me this new year. Oh yes in the middle of the year it may not go as planned but we will keep moving.

The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate

Oprah Winfrey

Life is too short to be worrying and complaining but instead focus on how blessed you are for the simple things that you have.

The struggle you're in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow. Don't give up. Words Of Encouragement Quotes On Life, Strength & Never Giving Up

Whenever I look 👀 back, I know now for sure that whatever happens in your life is your destiny and was predestined to be so.

Despite the challenges I am facing , I always want to be happy and positive even though some could be so hard. But the point is to be grateful and thankful for all you have.

2019 taught me a whole lot of things and gave me a new Dimension in life and also to see things from a different perspective.

Some things are so little we forget to take it into consideration. Little things they are, but are the biggest things. The importance of Gratitude 🙏 , are things like the air we breathe in, the bed we sleep in, food, a roof over our heads, love, happiness, being healthy and happy.

These things fill me in and make me glow from the inside because I am grateful to have these things.

Happiness is the utmost blessing a man can get if he has it. When you realize it the Earth 🌏 would move her best side to you.

How about you? What are you grateful for? Do you believe in New year Resolution? Do you think it is being hyped? Drop in the comment box below on how happy or the experiences you have had.

Happy New year and a wonderful month!

@Princesspringles

Motivation, Uncategorized

Arse licking😥🚶😕

Princess Anyasodor

I have seen Arse lickers, i have seen people who belittle themselves or think if they lick arses they would be pitied or given a share or rather be favoured.

According to oxforddictionaries the definition is ;

You all know we live in an arse-licking economy.

The realisation of your entity or rather your life comes in when you feel shrunked, crowded or overpowered than you can imagine. Then you start Feeling that you have no choice than to give in or even start agreeing against your principles and practices.

This is the life we live in, making people bend into not what we envisioned for ourselves but for the purpose of comfort and peace to reign.

Have you ever thought about people who goes against the comfort of others are seen as aliens? Or people who refuse to lick arses are seen as non compromising, too loud, empty space and also as stupid people untill this people start making money, or start making waves and also been heard.

You don’t have to conform, you don’t have to be quiet, you don’t have to listen to anyone or other people choices for you!!, You don’t have to put other peoples consideration before yours, you don’t have to live behind the norm of the societies you live in.

YOU HAVE TO BE YOU.

I tell myself Princess be you. Don’t let anyone try to say, you too loud, or you too happy, or don’t sing any more, or you too local, or you too old, or you too skinny, or you too fat or you won’t make it life or in a relationship, or you too sick or too fit.

Look don’t let anyone decieve you in saying too much of everything is bad. I think it is better to be or have too much as too less. If you like something go for it and if you dont like something change it or rather leave it.

Rather than licking arses to get what you want stand up for yourself and get something done!!

You can share your thoughts and experience of what you think. Would love to know.

https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/arse-licking

@Princess Pringles.

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What is your Purpose in life?

Princess Anyasodor

Live, laugh, Love

Broken handle!!, But still loved😘😂😂😂

Today as i laid on my Bed, my first thought was,

Princess what’s your purpose in life?

I have always asked myself this question but within the next second it leaves my mind or rather i thwart it away and focus on something else to organize in my brain.

Some people would love to travel, get married, have kids, learn new things, get rich, Study, buy expensive and Luxury cars, build good houses, meet their Idols, be Singers, renowned Artist and Professionals at whatever their choice of Career they choose.

I for one has always pondered what I wanted to be. As a kid I wanted to be a Doctor or an engineer (my family can attest to this I could repair practically everything… I mean tv’s and radios😛).

It was fixed in my head. But I loved to dance, listen to Music,(I could sing the whole playlist from the Radio), Pest people😂😛and also make people laugh.

I studied in the direction of my dreams but was not so sturdy like I thought I would be. Till I found what I love to do. Media.

Your purpose in life should be what Fulfils you. My childhood friend Blessing O. David said

Every one should find out what he has been called here for by God, and what God wants us to do with whom and how he wants us to do it.

I think for me its Happiness. Happiness is not a Livestyle but a choice between what works for you or rather what keeps you going, moving, motivates you, encourages you, wants to make you help others and also wants to make you live for another day.

Am still on the journey on finding my Purpose in life and also praying i keep getting directions on it.

My questions for you is, what is your purpose in life? And how do you intend to achieve it?

@Princess Pringles.