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Do you think our Modern Society Lacks Empathy?

You would not believe the insolence people have. Well, the question is if they even see it at all.

One afternoon I went to visit my friend after work. I was with her for two hours eating, chatting and discussing while she was preparing to go to work. At around 3:40 pm we decided to take the train, she going to work and I was going home.

As we boarded the train, I wanted to go up the first floor of the train and she countered that it would not be convenient for her , since she would be coming down at the next two junctions. I on the other hand, wanted to sit close to a window and just sleep. But then she always wins (the big head). So we sat down close to the door where bicycles 🚲 and Mamas always have a spot. There a lady sat opposite us with her bicycle. I and my friend noticed how she was stealing looks (no-no) not stealing looks but looking right at us the whole time. We kept our cool and decided to ignore her while chatting.

After a while, another lady came from the other coach and decided to pitch her bicycle against the other bicycles there. After that She left to sit elsewhere. Then BOOM something happened which left us Speechless. The Bicycles all tumbled and fell onto the other woman who was staring at us the whole time. Her bags and books fell off her, and we scrambled to help her get her things up. (But guess what? She did not say thank you to us) and the lady whose bicycle caused the whole commotion just sat there while her Girlfriend who we had not seen earlier stood up to come to pick their bicycle without uttering a word… NO word, no sorry, no sympathy, or asked if the lady was injured or to see if something had happened to her or us!! That left me and my friend perplexed like astounded like WTF…? And we were just looking at each other with no words but knowing we were both sending each other thousands of words with our silence and stare.

This got me thinking, why are people emotionless? Baseless? Or rather lacking Empathy by the day. So I read up on it and I came to realize that Empathy is the ability to understand another person’s reality while thinking about or being aware of their feelings. There are people like those two or rather three ladies who did not have this quality. After reading this up I realized I have encountered such in my life as well and I could identify them as such:

How do you Identify an Empathless person.

  • They do not pay you attention. They do not worry about you and are so focused on themselves because they care less about what happens to you.
  • They are unsympathetic and do not feel the urge to comfort you of your pain or what you are going through
  • They are selfish and do not trust anyone
  • They are also Egoistic
  • They find solace in Pain

Most of us have had Interaction or similar cases like this or even worse with our Partners, Bestfriends, Co-workers, Siblings, Parents and so on that leave us baffled. It still surprises and chagrins us when people we consider Families, friends, loved ones, decent, kind people seem to abandon us when we most need their emotional support.

This kind of interrelationship builds up to resentment, provocation, criticism and counterattacks. But this is what I have learnt from people with this emotions. If you have no empathy for yourself, no matter the love you give them, no matter how you try to make them accept you and also try to get their validation. At the very end they will not empathize with you.

How to come to Terms with an unemphathetic person

Do not get me wrong I am not saying they are bad people what I am saying is that you have to look into yourself and and know what you are standing for. Are you in whatever Situation you are with an unemphathetic person because you want to prove something? or feel seen? or worthful? These people have a lot on them so therefore you can only give back to these people when you:

  • When you are there to feel with them
  • When you come to the realisation that you accept them for who they are
  • When you have no expectations
  • When you pratcice self compassion and show yourself love
  • When you find someone caring to talk to e.g Therapist or loving friends
  • When you stop jumping through hoops for them and let it drain your Spirit

I feel really sad that they lack empathy because of things that must have happened at one time in their lives, traumatized childhood upbringings, lack of self-worth, loveless relationships and It’s like a never-ending bad cycle… starting from a loveless marriage that affects every member in the family, and when the children grow up from such environment, how do we expect them to know how to love and connect? The world is full of detached connections. This is a universal issue of our world pushing us towards Individualism besides many other issues too.

I am truly passionate and concerned about the lack of empathy that people show towards one another.

I am truly passionate and concerned about the lack of empathy that people show towards one another.

David Cross


I hope the newer generation will have an increased awareness in educating their children and demonstrating to them with examples of how to love and relate in their relationship in other to grow emotionally healthy children.
This all starts with us, we have to change what we can change, but we should not waste our time and energy trying to change someone who does not want to be changed.

Do you think our Society has become less Empathless?

Please feel free to comment on your experience with Lack of Empathy and what can be done in situations like this. I would be glad to hear from you.

This is my Birth month and i am so exicited. Happy new month everyone.

@princessanyasodor

Positivity, Motivation, Love

𝗔 𝗗𝗢𝗦𝗘 𝗢𝗙 𝗣𝗢𝗦𝗜𝗧𝗜𝗩𝗜𝗧𝗬. “𝗟𝗜𝗩𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗜𝗡 𝗕𝗢𝗡𝗗𝗔𝗚𝗘“

A dose of positivity. A little positivity goes a long way.

I want to use this medium to say that positive vibes is contagious. You can’t always be a downer. I feel down most of the time when things do not go my way too.

It was gotten from Google images
Living in Bondage (Breaking Free)
https://www.netflix.com/title/81270668

I watched the film ”Living in Bondage” (Breaking free) on Netflix and it is the sequel of the film ”Living in Bondage” which tells the story of Nnamdi Okeke, a young man who seems sympathic and inexperienced. The story of Nnamdi is very relatable because he wears his frustrations right on his sleeves. Nnamdi quits his job in the hope of opening a company of his own, in the aim of achieving greater success. The dream of being Independent did not pull through. Nnamdi’s uncontrollable pursue of success – fast cars, easy living and flashy lifestyle made him set out for a muffing quest for the extensive life, one that he would do whatever it takes to achieve it. Moreover, the point to prove himself that he is the better son to his father inevitably took him on this precarious quest.

Andy Okeke (Nnamdi Okeke biological father) mysteriously learns about a son he never knew existed. He is warned that his son is going down the path which he (Andy) sought out 27 years ago. It is a life-threatening journey for him and he does not want his son to go down that same path. Of course, the reunion of father and son did not go well and Nnamdi decides not to heed to his father’s advice.

Finally, Nnamdi‘s discovers the magnitude of his actions. He faces an enormous and regrettable predicament that has eventually become his bondage. He struggles to break free. In order to prove his commitment to a cultist group, he is instructed to sacrifice a loved one. In the film, the viewer sees he loves two people immensely, his brother (Toby) and girlfriend (Kelly).

I know you ask yourself, why I have decided to add a summary of the film ”Living in Bondage” It is to make a statement that at the end of it all, what helped Nnamdi was the bond between him and his brother (Toby) who came to his rescue. The dose of positivity Toby gave Nnamdi was what saved him at the end. And here is a dialogue between Nnamdi and Toby👇🏾

Toby :Somehow, we will get through this. Remember when I bashed Daddy`s car do you remember what you told me? You said to me what you go through I go through you did not bash the car

Toby and Nnamdi: we bashed the car.

Toby: You are my brother, my blood till the very end.

They both hugged at the end doing their brother stunts with the hands.

I felt that this dialogue between him and his brother was what gave him the strength to be able to defeat the cult that was after his life.

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

Leo Buscaglia

I am grateful, I have someone who is my Pillar and is there to always encourage me and tell me to share my worries. I am grateful for my parents who care about me and their prayers go before me. I am grateful for friends who whenever I call or texts, respond with the question (what is the way forward?) than berating me or telling me it was my fault.

Although we can find ourselves in a difficult time, we should have the courage to ask about the wellbeing of our neighbours, friends, colleagues, family members and also share some nice words with them which would go a long way. We do not know what any of them are passing through and you could be their joy that day or moment in time.

Kind words are short and easy to speak but their echos are truly endless

Mother Teresa

I hope you enjoy this post and do not forget to add a dose of Positivity in everything you do. Share your thoughts with me in the comment section below, like my post and do not forget to follow back.

Thank you 😘😘.

@Princesspringles