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Are you Focused in this time?

I am leaning on my windowsill and looking out my bedroom window with a glass of Carrot juice mixed with lemon, orange and Grapefruit. It is quite tasty you should try it. Ok back to why I am at my window. I just finished my Morning yoga flow and wanted to bring out my clothes before I go have my bath and then I heard the birds chirping.

I started wondering (wow) they are so loud! I started to ask myself, have I ever heard them so loud before? Which of the birds is chirping which way? Because they seem so many and their chirps were so loud and soothing like music to my ears. Why have I not heard them so intensive before? These are the questions that were running through my mind as I looked out my window.

You get what you focus on so focus on what you want

As I look out my window I realised for the first time that I am so still and everything around me is quiet. I am able to block out the noises of cars driving by and just concentrate on the birds and myself. Then I thought back and realised that practically all my life I have never been so still as the past month of this quarantine.

I have also come to realise in this time that life is really precious and you have to know what belongs to your heart and the people around you that you cherish and to know not only about their wellbeing but also their mental state of health.

Everyone has been thrown down a loop, everyone is at home trying to balance themselves and their businesses. Some are working from the comfort of their homes and others like myself are at home because their work has been halted due to this pandemic.

At the moment, I am trying to have a clear understanding of who I am, what I want, and what my foundation or core is and how I can build it in this period and after this period.
I hear all the time in this Pandemic that you have to build a skill or rather do something new for your self and I am like why not stay calm, do not overthink yourself but try and breathe in new air into your lungs and then the other things and skills will follow.

Currently everything is on a standstill and the time is not respecting anyone by standing still with us but rather flying by. You need to remember what is great about you, what your strengths are and where they lie. I mean this time you are taking out time for yourself to know yourself now, breathing in and out and knowing that no matter what you are passing through we will be fine later on.

It will be all well and beautiful as this Flower 🌹. I got this from the local flower shop close to me.

We are in this together and as we go through this COVID-19, I chant to myself that I love to get through times like this because it will bring out the best in me, it will make me think clearly, learn myself well and also to care for my health and then try and help other people, my family, to call someone and check on them if they are well or rather write them to know how they are doing.

Do things in this period all day in a way that uniquely suits.

Just start!!!

There is absolutely no need to Panic.

All these have taught me that life is really precious and should not be toiled with: Yes, we are humans but there are things powerful than us. If a virus can shut the whole world down!!! what cannot?

I wish you all well and would love to hear from you and how you are going through with Quarantine, what is helping you keep sane.

@Princesspringles

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Judging others🎤🎤

The last months of last year from October was a trying time for me. I felt I was not in a good state of mind. I was stressed and I got into a habit😱.

I was in a phase that I could not streamline my thoughts.

Then it started… I started judging people, if someone passed me by at work or wherever I was standing, sitting, looking at, in the train, while I was walking, in the restaurant, on the internet. I was constantly judging people either the way they looked, spoke, the race moved, smelt, or behaved.

Every single time I did it I felt like I was being drained of something but then again it came up and it would be back to square one class 101 on judging others.

I realised I spent so much time judging people that I started hating myself, I did not feel the rush of energy I always have ( ask people who know me), I started feeling less of myself and my state of mind became unproductive.t

I slowly started thinking (hey 😨 this is like a tunnel you fall into and climbing out feels like the walls of Jericho to get out.) What would have triggered this Emotion, feeling down and all because the same time I was judging these people it could have also been me they were equally judging. To be honest with you? I did not feel comfortable thinking that it could be me on that pedestal table. For all, I know the same things I did judge others about could also be what they judged me off and even more.

So why did I do it?

I traced it back to the time I started feeling too comfortable in my zone and I wanted more but did not know how to get out, to the time I started feeling inadequate of getting to a certain position in my life. I knew I could change if only I could master my mindset and streamline my thoughts to be about positive things. I am not saying everything and at every time that it has to be perfect, No!! What I am trying to say is that only when this thoughts and feeling starts dominating your thoughts and taking the existence of your happiness from you, then is it paramount for you to change things. Because happiness is the key.

In the following paragraphs, I will be writing three reasons why I think we judge others, what happens when we judge others and why we need to stop judging people.

Why do we Judge Others?

  1. I think we Judge others when our life feels constant and we are seeking for a change. When the feeling of t not moving forward seems unsurmountable, and we get jealous when we see others living their best lives and this pushes us to automatically judge others.
  2. I think we judge others when we are insecure about certain things in our lives and for some, they are clueless about what the problem is and how they can tackle it either from their childhood, family, parents, friends at work, their Bodies and so on. All these tend to lead one to judge others they see as perfect and thereby feeling good when they do it.
  3. I also think we judge others when we feel threatened. Either by the status of your partner, co-worker, friend, celebrity or when these people buy a new car, cloth, house and so on. We become scared that they would keep getting better whilst you stay under.

What happens when we judge others

  1. I think that when we judge others that we also judge ourselves and it makes us not only feel less confident but also we do not seem it able to raise our heads high.
  2. I noticed that while I judged others it was not of what they did to me but the Stereotypes surrounding their ethnicity, their Gender, appearances and language. Forgetting I am human, a woman and in a foreign country and there is practically a stereotype for everyone.
  3. I started thinking negatively and it breeds Negatively impacts in almost anything you think about. This could have an impact not only on yourself but people around you.

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves

Carl Jung

Why you need to stop Judging

  1. Try to streamline your thoughts on positive things. Find no FAULT in others. Try as much as possible to avoid contact with people who also judge others so you do not fall. Always say something positive in your heart and you will notice that eventually, it will start popping out of your mouth
  2. Avoid Stereotyping people because you do not know them personally and even if you do it will only breed hatred in you.
  3. Try and focus everything in you to manifesting and meditating good things into your life.

There is a story behind every person. There’s a reason why they are the way they are. Think about that before you judge someone

Anonymous

Lastly, do not worry about others and do not judge others. Be kind to yourself and love yourself. Observe things and the world around you and then slowly but surely your perspective will be broadened.

I am getting there eventually because bad energy gat to stay far away😁😂. I cannot change whatever it was I was annoyed about but I can change ME.

Thank you for reading and I will be pleased to read your comments below on why do you judge people? How do you feel about yourself afterwards? And also how can it be stopped?.

I wish you all a lovely February.

@Princesspringles

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A Better We!!📚❤️🇳🇬

My dream of a better Nigeria 🇳🇬 is a Dream of a better me.

A better me bettering my surroundings, being kind, uplifting, motivational, aspiring and passionate to my people, friends, Family, coworkers and anyone i come in contact with.

A better Nigeria 🇳🇬 is a better me not collecting bribes, not coming to the notion of doing my neighbor bad, being covetous, hating on others struggles and not being contented with what i have.

A better me is a diligent worker. There is a saying in German that says;

“Pray as though no work could help, and work as though no prayer could help”

When I work hard, I have no time for anyone. I only have time in bettering myself .

Work is a short form of Productivity.

When I work hard, I tend to dream big because I know i will get there through my efforts and consistency. This notion does not work the other way round that is; when I don’t work but I tend to dream Big. NO!!!! It doesn’t work that way.

My dream of a better Nigeria is a better me helping the Blinds, the people with intellectual disabilities and people with moderate mental retardation. In all these cases and more is my country so back on the knowledge of these people.

A better Nigeria is when I stop complaining that Nigeria is bad and our leaders are corrupt and start to be a better me.

A better Nigeria is a better me bringing in focus on our strengths and the drive force behind us as a people.

Nigerians everywhere, anywhere, anytime are the most resilient, happy, cheerful people regardless of their situations.

It is better if we could start being better Nigerians by teaching ourselves and empowering ourselves to be able to empower the people around us.

I will try and I hope you all would too.

I AM A LIVING TESTIMONY.

P.S I would love ❤️ to see your comment on how you can better yourself and your country. Thank you 🙏.

@Princesspringles.